Description of Woman Passing the Hands over the Head whilst Performing Wudu

By Shaykh Muhammad Nasir uddeen al-Albaani
Translated by Umm Yahya

 Muhammad Nasir- Deen Al-Albaani (d.1420A.H) -Rahimullaah- was asked:

Questioner:

I hear that some of the people of knowledge say that a woman who has long hair and makes Wudhu and wants to pass her wet hands over her head must begin from the front and pass her hands over her head until she reaches her neck. She then moves her hands back to the front (of her forehead) and it is not obligatory for her to pass her hands over all of her hair, even if her hair reaches the middle of her back. So what is the description of a woman with long hair when making Wudhu with relation to her passing her hands over her hair?

May Allah reward you with good.

Shaykh Al-Albaani answered:

‘The case is as mentioned in the question, we know from some of the people of knowledge, that a woman must begin wiping her head from her forehead to the back where the hairline finishes at the back of the head, and this is regardless of whether it is a man or a woman, she then moves the palms of her hands back to her forehead.

This is what is obligatory upon her, without doing anything extra.

Comments:

‘Amr bin AbdulMuna’im Saleem adds some notes to this answer:

‘As is verified in the hadeeth pertaining to the description of Wudhu of the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- in Saheeh Bukhari and Muslim. From the hadeeth of Abdullaah Bin Zaid -Radi Allaahu anhu-  ‘…then he -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam-   passed his hands over his head from the front of the head to the back with his hands, he began at the forehead and then took them until the beginning of the neck, he then returned his hands to the place that they began from.’

[From: Jamia’ Masail an-Nisa’ p. 35 collected by ‘Amr bin AbdulMuna’im Saleem]

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Allaah تعالى gave Salaam to Khadijah, Jibreel عليه السلام gave Salaam to Aishah, may Allaah be pleased with them both

Allaah تعالى gave Salaam to Khadijah, Jibreel عليه السلام gave Salaam to Aishah, may Allaah be pleased with them both

Ibn al-Qayyim said, “Khadijah bint Khuwailid ibn Asad ibn Abdul-Uzza ibn Qusai ibn Kilaab, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم married her in Makkah when he was twenty-five years old and he remained with her until Allaah honoured him with His Message. She believed in him and aided him, and so was a truthful vizier to him. She died three years before the [Prophet’s] hijrah according to the most correct opinion, and it is said four years [before] and it is [also] said five years [before].

And she has special characteristics, may Allaah be pleased with her, from them being the fact that: the Prophet did not marry anyone else while he was with her; that all of his children were from her, except Ibrahim عليه السلام for he was from Maariyah; that she is the best of the women of this ummah.

And there is a difference of opinion regarding her superiority over Aishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, there being three opinions concerning that, the third of which is abstaining [from saying who is better].

And I asked our Shaikh, Ibn Taymiyyah, may Allaah have mercy on him [about this issue] and he said, “Each one of the two has a special characteristic specific to her. So Khadijah’s impact was in the beginning of Islaam, she used to console Allaah’s Prophet and make him firm and soothe him, and would spend her wealth for him, so she met the dawn of Islaam, and bore harm for Allaah’s Sake and the sake of His Messenger, and the help she gave to the Prophet was at the time he was in the most dire need of it. So the [merit] she has for her aid and her sacrifice is something which others do not have.

And Aishah’s impact, may Allaah be pleased with her, was at the final stage of Islaam, so the [merit] she has for her understanding of the religion and for conveying it to the ummah and benefitting her children [i.e., the Muslims] with the knowledge she imparted to them is something others do not have.” This is the meaning of what he said.

I [i.e., Ibn al-Qayyim] say: and from her special qualities is that Allaah, the One free of all defects, sent [His Own Greeting of] Salaam to her through Jibreel عليه السلام so the Prophet of Allaah informed her [of that]. In his Sahih, Al-Bukhaari said, “Qutaibah ibn Sa’eed narrated to us [saying]: Muhammad ibn Fudail narrated to us from Ummarah from Abu Zur’ah from Abu Hurairah, may Allaah be pleased with him, that he said, “Jibreel came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah! This is Khadijah coming to you with a dish having meat soup (or some food or drink). When she reaches you, greet her on behalf of her Lord and on my behalf and give her the glad tidings of having a palace made of Qasab in Paradise, wherein there will be neither any noise nor any toil.’” [Bukhaari, no. 3820 and Muslim, no. 2432]. And by the everlasting existence of Allaah! This was a special quality that was for none other than her.

And as for Aishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, then verily Jibreel عليه السلام gave her salaam on the tongue of the Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم. Al-Bukhaari said: Yahya ibn Bukair narrated to us [saying]: al-Layth narrated to us from Yunus from Ibn Shihaab that Abu Salamah said, “Once Allaah’s Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم said, ‘O Aa’ish [i.e., Aishah]! This is Jibreel greeting you.’ So she said, ‘Wa alaihis-salaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuhu. You see what I do not see.’ She was addressing Allaah’s Messenger [with the last sentence].” [Bukhaari, no. 3768 and Muslim, no. 2447]

And from Khadijah’s special qualities, may Allaah be pleased with her, is that she never hurt him–ever, and she never made him angry, and he never swore not to have sexual relations with her [الإيلاء, cf. Surah Baqarah, aayah, 226], nor did he give her a gentle reprimand, ever, nor boycott her–and sufficient is that as a virtue and merit. And from her distinguishing qualities is that she was the first woman from this Ummah to believe in Allaah and His Messenger.”

Jalaa’ul-Afhaam fis-Salaati was-Salaam alaa Khairil-Anaam, pp. 236.
Translated by Ahmed Abu Turaab
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Different Opinions Between the Spouses

Different Opinions Between the Spouses    
Reference: Audio tape – albaseerah.org
Author: Shaykh Mis’id al Husaynee

Question:

If I follow an opinion, from the opinions of the people of knowledge, that is different than the one my Husband follows. Do I have to follow the opinion that my husband follows or can I follow the opinion that I believe to be correct?

Response:

This issue requires a detailed response; if the opinion in question affects the whole household, then it is the opinion that the husband holds to be correct that is to be followed. If however, the opinion in question only affects the wife, then she may follow the opinion that she believes is correct. I’ll give you an example; the issue of pictures, let’s say the wife believes that the correct opinion here is that photographs are not considered to be pictures, so she wants to hang them on the wall. The husband holds the opinion that photographs are pictures. This issue affects the whole household, so it is the opinion that the husband holds that must be followed.

Another example is the shortening of prayers during travel. Let’s say the husband holds the opinion that you cannot shorten the prayer unless you travel for a day and night. The wife holds the opinion that you can shorten the prayer at the distance of 83 kilometers. In this case the wife can shorten her prayers following this opinion, and she does not have to follow the opinion that her husband follows, as this decision only affects her and does not affect the whole family. Each person can follow the opinion that they believe is closest to the truth and backed by the evidence.

So if the issue in question affects the whole household, then the husbands opinion is the one that is followed. If however the issue only affects the wife, then she may follow the opinion that she believes is closest to the truth from the opinions of the scholars as long as it is the truth that is sought and not one’s desires.

Translator: Abu Abdul-Waahid, Nadir Ahmad
[Important note] This was a live question asked to Shaykh Mis’id al Husaynee with albaseerah.org, upon returning to the audio file it was not found, so it was translated out of memory. As soon as the audio file is found it would be altered to reflect exactly what the Shaykh said along with the Arabic text.

The Ideal Salafiyyah Woman [Youtube]

In the Name of Allaah, Ar-Rahmaan, Ar-Raheem…

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“The salafiyyah woman is the one who understands the book and the sunnah as our rightly guided predecessors understood it…”

“The salafiyyah woman is the one who is compliant; submissive to what she hears from the statements of the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam…”

“The salafiyyah woman is the one who mentions clearly and explicitly her aqeedah, especially in times of fitnah….”

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‘And Live With Them in Kindness’

‘And Live With Them in Kindness’

Compiled and Translated By Abbas Abu Yahya

1 -Allaah Ta’ala said:

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً

<< And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility[1] in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy[2]. >> [Room: 21]

2 -Allaah Ta’ala said:

وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ

<< and live with them in kindness[3]>>[4] [Nisa: 19]

3 – From Abu Hurairah -Radi Allaahu anhu- that Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:

 دينار أنفقته في سبيل الله ، ودينار تصدقت به في رقبة ، ودينار تصدقت به على مسكين ، ودينار أنفقته على أهلك . أعظمها أجرا الذي أنفقته على أهلك

‘From the Dinar (money) that you spent in the path of Allaah, the Dinar that you spent in freeing a slave, the Dinar that you gave in charity to a needy person, and the Dinar you spent on your family, the one that is the greatest in reward is the one that you spent on your family.’[5]

4 – From Abu Hurairah -Radi Allaahu anhu- that Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:

إن أكمل المؤمنين إيماناً أحسنهم خُلقاً، وخياركم خياركم لنسائكم

‘The most complete of the Believers in their Eemaan are those who have the best manners[6], and the best of you[7] are those who are best to their women.’[8]

5 – From ‘Amr bin al-Ahwaas from the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- who said:

أَلاَ إِنَّ لَكُمْ عَلَى نِسَائِكُمْ حَقًّا وَلِنِسَائِكُمْ عَلَيْكُمْ حَقًّا

‘Indeed you have rights upon your women and they have rights upon you.’[9]

6 – From Abu Hurairah -Radi Allaahu anhu- who said that the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:

‫لا يَفْرَكْ مُؤْمِنٌ مُؤْمِنَةً إِنْ كَرِهَ مِنْهَا خُلُقًا رَضِيَ مِنْهَا آخَرَ

 ‘A believing man should not hate a believing woman, if he dislikes a mannerism of hers, he will be pleased with another mannerism.’[10]

7 – From Abdullaah bin Zamah -Radi Allaahu anhu- that the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:

يعمد أحدكم فيجلد امرأته جلد العبد فلعله يضاجعها من أخر يومه

‘None of you should lash your wife[11] like the lashing of a slave, and then perhaps at night he has intercourse with her.’[12]

8 – From Sa’ad bin Abi Waqqas -Radi Allaahu anhu- that the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:

إِنَّكَ لَنْ تُنْفِقَ نَفَقَةً تَبْتَغِي بِهَا وَجْهَ اللَّهِ إِلا أُجِرْتَ عَلَيْهَا ، حَتَّى فِي اللُّقْمَةِ تَرْفَعُهَا إِلَى فِي امْرَأَتِكَ

‘Indeed you do not spend some wealth desiring the Face of Allaah except that you are rewarded for it, even for the food you place in your wife’s mouth.’[13]

9 -  ‘Aeysha -Radi Allaahu anha- said:

ما ضرب صلى الله عليه وسلم بيده خادما قط و لا امرأة

‘The Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- never ever hit[14] a servant, or a woman.’[15]

10 – Ibn Abbas -Radi Allaahu anhu- said:

‘Indeed I love to beautify myself for my wife just like I love that she beautifies herself for me.’[16]

11 – From Abdullaah bin ‘Amr -Radi Allaahu anhu- the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:

كفى بالمرء إثماً أن يضيع من يقوت

‘It is sufficient as a sin upon a man that he does not take responsibility over those he is responsible for.’[17]

12- From Ibn Umar -Radi Allaahu anhu- the Messenger of Allaah said:

إن أعظم الذنوب عند الله رجل تزوج امرأة فلما قضى حاجته منها طلقها وذهب بمهرها ، ورجل استعمل رجلا فذهب بأجرته ، وآخر يقتل دابة عبثا

 ‘Indeed the greatest of sins to Allaah are that a man marries a woman and when he has satisfied his need from her, he divorces her and goes off with her dowry.  And that a man employs another man and goes off with his salary and that a person kills his riding animal frivolously.’[18]

13- From Mu’aweeyah bin Haydah -Radi Allaahu anhu- who said:

‘I asked the Messenger of Allaah what is the right that the wife has upon one of us?

The Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:

أن تطعمها إذا طعمت وتكسوها إذا اكتسيت ولا تضرب الوجه ولا تقبح ولا تهجر إلا في البيت

‘That you feed her when you eat, and clothe her when you clothe yourself,[19] and do not hit her on her face and do not say may Allaah deface you,[20] and do not keep away from her except in the home[21].’[22]

In another wording from Bahz Hakeem from his father, with the wording: He said: ‘I had said: O Prophet of Allaah, regarding our wives, what should we do and what should we be cautioned from?’

The Messenger said:

حرثك ، إئت حرثك أنى شئت غير أن لا تضرب الوجه ، ولا تقبح ، ولا تهجر إلا في البيت ، وأطعم إذا طعمت ، واكس إذا اكتسيت ، كيف وقد أفضى بعضكم إلى بعض ، ( بما حل عليه)

‘She is your tilth, come to your tilth as you please, except that you do not strike her face, nor say may Allaah make you ugly, nor keep away from her except in the house, and feed her when you eat, and clothe her when you clothe yourself, and how can you not since you have gone in unto each other, except with what she has been made permissible for you.’[23]

13- From al-Miqdam bin Ma’dee Karib al-Kindi that the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- stood amongst the people and praised Allaah and exalted Him and said:

إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا، إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا، فَإِنَّهُنَّ أُمَّهَاتُكُمْ وَبَنَاتُكُمْ وَخَالاتُكُمْ، إِنَّ الرَّجُلَ مِنْ أَهْلِ الْكِتَابِ يَتَزَوَّجُ الْمَرْأَةَ وَمَا تُعَلِّقُ يَدَاهَا الْخَيْطَ، فَمَا يَرْغَبُ وَاحِدٌ مِنْهُمَا عَنْ صَاحِبِهِ حَتَّى يَمُوتَا هَرَمًا

‘Indeed Allaah advices[24] you in the strongest possible terms to be good to women, indeed Allaah advices you in the strongest possible terms to be good to women, advices you in the strongest possible terms with regards to women, indeed they are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your paternal aunts (father’s sisters) and your maternal aunts (mother’s sisters).  Indeed a man from the people of the two books (Jews & Christians) marries a woman and does not hit her, each one of them continues to desire his companion until he dies in old age.’

Abu Salmah said I narrated this hadeeth to al-Ala bin Sufyaan al-Ghassanee who said:

‘Indeed it has reached me that from the evil hidden sins which Allaah has made Haraam, which are not clearly mentioned in the Qur’aan, are that a man marries a woman and when his companion becomes old and she has stayed with him for a long time, and has produced all that her womb can, then he divorces her without any reason to do so.’[25]

14 – Shaykh AbdurRahman bin Nasr as-Sa’adi (d. 1376 A.H.) said:

‘Allaah Ta’ala said regarding dealings:

<< And do not forget liberality between yourselves. >> [Baqarah: 227]

Which means, make a place for excellence and Ihsaan in your dealings.  Do not take all your rights, rather make things easy and do not make them difficult, and be pardoning in buying and selling, in settling a debt and times of need.  And whoever necessitates upon himself this goodness achieves a lot of good and great good. And Allaah Knows best.’[26]

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[1] Shaykh Rabee’ ibn Haadee al-Madkhali said: ‘This Ayaah confirmed the blessing of living together in tranquillity since Allaah placed love and mercy between the husband and wife. Verily this blessing of living together in tranquillity cannot be achieved except if it is in an atmosphere which is surrounded and fragranced by love and mercy.’

[Taken from: ‘al-Haqooq wal-Waajibat . . . . p.19]

[2] Shaykh AbdurRahman bin Nasr as-Sa’adi (d. 1376 A.H.) said:

‘From those signs that indicate Allaah’s Mercy and His concern for His slaves, and His great Wisdom and His all-Encompassing knowledge is << that He created for you from yourselves mates >> whom are suited to you and you are suited for them, and they are similar to you and you are similar to them.

<<that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy.>> with what results from marriage is a means that causes love and mercy, so a person receives enjoyment and pleasure from the wife and the benefit of the presence of offspring and educating them, and finds tranquility with them and generally you do not find amongst people the like of the love and mercy found between husband and wife.’

[‘Tayseer al-Kareem ar-Rahman fee Tafseer Kalam al-Mannan’ 6/p.97]

[3] Shaykh Muhammed bin Salih al-Uthaymeen (d.1421 A.H.) said:

‘Living with them: means companionship and dealings, so a person deals with her in a good way and likewise to have good companionship with her.’

[Sharh Riyadh as-Saliheen’ 3/114]

[4] al-Hafidh Emaad ad-Deen Isma’eel Ibn Katheer (d. 774 A.H.) -Rahimullaah-  said: ‘This means, speak to them in a good way and make your actions and your appearance  good as much as you can, just like you would love that from your partner, then you should deal with her as you would like to be dealt with, as Allaah Ta’ala said: << And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses, etc.) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect, etc.) to what is reasonable,>> and the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: ‘and the best of you are those who are best to their women.’ And from the Messenger’s mannerisms was that he would live with his wives in a beautiful way, always smiling, being playful with his family and being gentle with them, and spending on them and making his women laugh.’ [Taken from: ‘Tafseer al-Qur’aan al-Atheem’ 1/608]

[5] Collected by Muslim

[6] Shaykh Albaani said: ‘Good manners: sacrificing to do good deeds, preventing harm and having a cheerful face.’

[Riyadh as-Saliheen p. 159]

[7]  Shaykh Uthaymeen said: ‘Regarding the saying of the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam: ‘The best of you . . .’ This person is the best of the people, he is the best of them to his wife. So if you have any goodness, then make that goodness for the closest of the people to you, and make it so that your wife is the first to benefit from this good.

And this is the opposite of what some people do today, you find that he has bad manners with his wife, and has good behavior with other people, and this is a great mistake.

Your wife has the most right to good behavior, and having the best manners to them, because she is the one who is with you day and night, openly and secretly.  If you are afflicted with something she is afflicted along with you, and if your happy, she is happy along with you, if your sad, she is sad along with you, therefore you should make your dealings with her better than your dealings with strangers, so the best of the people are those who are best of them to their wives.

I ask Allaah to complete my Eemaan and that of the Muslims, and that he makes us the best of the slaves of Allaah to our wives and upon those who have a right upon us. [Taken from: ‘Explanation of Riyadh as-Saliheen’ 3/134]

[8] Albaani said in ‘Silsilah Saheehah’ no. 284, ‘it is from the hadeeth of Abu Hurairah -Radi Allaahu anhu- collected by Tirmidhi and Ahmad and the first part of the hadeeth is collected by Abu Dawood, Ibn Abee Shaybah in ‘al-Musannaf’, Abu Na’eem in ‘al-Hileeyah’ and Haakim and he said it is Saheeh upon the conditions of Muslim and Dhahabi agreed with him.’

[9] Collected by Tirmidhi, declared Hasan by Albaani No.1163

[10] Collected by Muslim

[11] Shaykh Uthaymeen said: ‘He lashes his wife like he lashes any other person as if there was no relationship between him and his wife, and as if she is a captive slave, helper to him.  This is not befitting because the relationship between a man and his wife is a special relationship, which must be built upon love, compassion, and keeping far away from evil, whether it is in speech or in action.

As for lashing her like lashing a slave, then at night to have intercourse with her, then how is it possible that you have intercourse with her at night with love, and then take pleasure and desire from her and you had lashed her like the lashing of a slave? !

This is a contradiction; this is why the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- rebuked this action. It is not befitting that this occurs from a human being, and the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- spoke the truth, indeed this does not befit an intelligent person more over a believer.’ [Taken from: ‘Sharh Riyadh as-Saliheen’ 3/119]

[12] Collected by Bukhari & Muslim

[13] Collected by Bukhari & Muslim

[14] Shaykh AbdulMuhsin al-Abbad al-Badr said about this hadeeth in his explanation of Sunnan Abi Dawood:

‘The compiler mentions the hadeeth of ‘Aeysha -Radi Allaahu anha-:

‘That the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- never ever hit a servant, or a woman.’

That was because of his noble manners, he was forgiving and he -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- would live with his wives in a good way. An incident of hitting a servant, from those servants who used to serve him, never occurred.  He -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- never hit any of his wives, rather he was gentle, merciful, forgiving and he -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- love and gentleness.  This indicates to his -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- perfect mannerisms, even though there perhaps may have occurred transgression and matters by which some servants warranted reprimanding, however the Prophet’s -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- character and his way was gentle, forgiving and pardoning in his matters.’

[15] Collected by Muslim

[16] Collected by al-Bayhaqi

[17] Collected by Ahmad, Nisa’ee, Hakim & Albaani declared it ‘Hasan Lighayrihi’ in ‘Saheeh Targheeb wa Tarheeb’ Vol.2 No.1965

[18] Collected by Hakim & al-Bayhaqi. Albaani said in ‘Silsilah Saheehah’ no. 999 and Saheeh al-Jamia’ 1567 [Hasan]

[19] Shaykh Uthaymeen said: regarding the saying of the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam-  ‘that you feed her when you eat, and clothe her when you clothe yourself,’ Which means, do not specify clothing yourself without taking a concern in clothing her, nor feeding yourself and not feeding her.  Rather she is your partner, it is obligatory to spend on her as you spend upon yourself, so much so that many of the scholars say: ‘If a man does not spend on his wife, and she requests a divorce from the judge, then it is upon the judge to cancel the marriage, due to the husband being deficient about her right which is obligatory for her.’ [Explanation of Riyad as-Saliheen 3/131]

[20] Shaykh Uthaymeen said: ‘Regarding the saying of the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam: ‘do not call her ugly. . .’ It means do not say you are ugly, or say: may Allaah disfigure your face.  What is included in this prohibition of calling her ugly is the prohibition of claiming she is ugly whether it is tangible or (in meaning) intangible. So do not say: ‘You are from a unnoble tribe, or from an evil family etc.’ all of this is from claiming she is ugly which Allaah has prohibited.’ [Explanation of Riyad as-Saliheen 3/132]

Hafidh al-Mundhari said: ‘It means do not say disliked things to her, and do not curse her.’ [‘Saheeh Targheeb wa Tarheeb’ 2/p.411]

[21] Shaykh Albaani said: ‘Except if it is necessary, due to it being established when the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam – made Hijrah (boycotted) from his wives due to a drink that he took outside the home’

[Riyad as-Saliheen p.159]

[22] Collected by Ahmad, Ibn Hibban al-Albaani ‘Saheeh Targheeb wa Tarheeb’ No.1929 & he declared it to be Saheeh.

[23] Collected by Ahmad, Abu Dawood & Albaani declared the Sanad to be Hasan in ‘Irwaa al-Ghaleel’ 7/p.98

[24] In the explanation of the word Waseeyah: ‘and I strongly advise you to be good to women’ which means: accept my advice regarding women, and act upon it, be patient with them, be gentle with them and be good to them.’

[Taken from: ‘al-Mufhim lima Ashkal min Talkhees Kitab Muslim’ by Umar bin Ibraheem al-Qurtoobi]

[25] Collected by Ibn ‘Aasakir in ‘Tareekh Dimishq’ from Yahya bin Jabir.

[26] ‘Bahtaja al-Qaloob al-Abraar wa Qarat Ayoon al-Akhbar’- No. 61 p.120

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The Ruling on Women Covering their Feet in Prayer – Shaykh Muhammad Al-Imaam

Shaykh Muhammad Al-Imaam (hafithahuallah)
Presented to you by Markaz Tawheed was-Sunnah in Durham, NC
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Sisters be patient with your Husbands

In the name of Allaah, the Beneficient, Most Merciful. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, companions and all those who follow them in goodness until the day of Return. As for what follows;

Questioner:

…”I’ve been with my husband (for a long time) and we’ve been through good times and bad times. We have six boys and four girls together not to mention those whom Allaah took their souls while they were young. However when he gets angry about something pertaining to the worldy-life whether it be in the home or outside of it, he says things to me that would cause ones hair to turn grey (all) without due right. Depsite that, I remain patient and say: “This is my husband and the father of my children and I’ll be rewarded for my patience (with him).”

Nevertheless the question that I wish to ask is that he says while angry: “Three words and you’ll be out the house” and repeats it three times. I do not know what those words (actually) are but it is known that they seperate a man from his wife. (Please) inform me about this mans speech and may Allaah reward you with good.”

Sheikh ‘Abdul ‘Azeez ibn Baaz , may Allaah have mercy upon him, says:

“We advise you with patience, ihtisaab (seeking reward from Allaah) and supplication for your husband. That Allaah grants him success and guides him so that he will guard his tongue from (saying) offensive words. Supplication is required for both men and women.

Allaah says:

“And your Lord said: “Invoke Me, (and ask Me for anything) I will respond to your (invocation).”[40:60]

And He says:

“And when My slaves ask you concerning Me, then (answer them), I am indeed near (to them by My Knowledge). I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me (without any mediator or intercessor).”[2:186]

And you are appreciated for your patience and forbearance with this man who speaks rudely when he becomes angry.

(You should also) advise him when he is calm. Advise him with politeness and tenderness, not with yelling or the like from that which causes harm because you will suffer the consequences of that.

As for (him saying) “three words and that you’ll be out the house”, then this will not harm you at all as long as he doesn’t say anything. If he says “three words” it means that he’s only bluffing. Meaning straighten up your act or I am going to divorce you. This is the meaning of it however it will not do anything to you and you are not at fault.

Source: http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/12461
Translated by Abu Fouzaan Qaasim , an American student studying in the Islaamic University of Medinah from Chester,PA.

May Allah Have Mercy on You O’ Mother

Shaykh Muhammed ar-Raslan on his Mother. May Allah Have Mercy on Her. @DaarusSunnah – www.DuSunnah.com

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