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At the deathbed of Umm Habibah (radhi Allaahu anha)

At the deathbed of Umm Habibah (radhi Allaahu anha)

It is reported that ‘Â`ishah – said, “Umm Habîbah called for me on her deathbed and said, ‘There used to occur between us the kinds of things that happen between co-wives (al-darâ`ir), so may Allâh forgive me and you those things.’ I said, ‘May Allâh forgive you all those things and release you from [all liability] for that.’ She replied, ‘You have made me happy, may Allâh make you happy.’ And she sent for Umm Salamah and said the same things to her.”

Al-Dhahabî, Siyar A’lâm Al-Nubalâ` Vol. 2 p223

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The Righteous Women Are Devoutly Obedient – Abul-Hasan Malik (audio/english)

The Righteous Women Are Devoutly Obedient
Abul-Hasan Malik (audio/english)

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What a Woman! – Ibnul Jawzee (rahimahullaah)

What a Woman! – Ibnul Jawzee (rahimahullaah)

Ibnul Jawzee (rahimahullaah) said: Sayyaar (rahimahullaah) reported from Riyaah (rahimahullaah) who said:

A woman was mentioned to me, so I married her. Whenever she finished praying Ishaa, she would perfume herself, adorn herself with incense and wear her (fine) clothes; then she would approach me and say: “Do you have a need?” If I said yes, she would stay with me; and if I said no, she would take off her (fine) clothes and stand up for (prayer) till the morning. Riyaah said: “By Allaah, she really delighted me.”

[Sifatus Safwah: page: 116]

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Writing Basmalah and Allah's Name on Ornaments and Jewellery

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Writing Basmalah and Allah’s Name on antiques

Q: What is the legal decision on the decorations and ornaments where the Glorious Name “Allah” and the name of the Prophet “Muhammad” are engraved? I work in business and I have dealings with some Muslim brothers in some countries. They want to know whether the Glorious Name “Allah” should be written on the right side and the name “Muhammad” on the left side or not?

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Fataawaa for Women – Hijaab – Abu ‘Uwais ‘Abdullaah Ahmed ‘Alee (audio/english)

Fataawaa for Women – Hijaab
Abu ‘Uwais ‘Abdullaah Ahmed ‘Alee

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Muslim Family II – Shaykh Ali Haddaadi / Mustafa George ( mp3 Ar/En)

Muslim Family II 

by  Shaykh Ali Haddaadi

with English translation by Mustafa George on  12-04-2012

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High-lights:

Last gathering briefing:

• Rights of Husband and Wife
• Treating each other good
• Wife on obeying the husband in that which is right
  • serving the husband
  • responding when husband calls for intimacy except for legislated reasons (eg. if it would increase any sickness, Assalah time would pass etc.)
• Fulfilling rights should be done in the right manner – eg. without showing dislike (which then is not fulfilling the rights)

SOME CAUSES FOR DIFFERENCES THAT TAKE PLACE IN MARRIAGE:

• Man or Women did not see properly before marriage – not pleased with the partner’s look
• They look at one another’s shortcomings and don’t look at the good qualities – a believer should not hate any believer
• Illness caused by medical reasons like short temper
  • needs overlooking
  • give time
  • discus at later time
• Illness caused not by medical reasons like
  • jealousy
  • evil eye
  • magic
• Problems are not dealt with when it occurs - accumulating it
  • need for dealing in calmness
  • need for treating maters done intentionally and by mistake, differently.
• Non fulfilling the obligatory rights of one another
• Outside interference – from families etc
  • due to this they should be very cautious of any outside interference especially when it is intended for separation
• Husband has more than one wife and he does injustice

STEPS FOR RECONCILIATION

For Deficiency with the Husband steps for wife:

1. Humbly speaking the mater in a nice manner
2. trustworthy Individuals/ from Family/ who have positive influence to speak to husband
3. think of  what would be the result of separation – if she finds staying with husband is better (eg due to – old age, children, general benefit of situation) She compromises some of her rights
   • Example from the time of prophet – Sauda bint Zam’a (radiallahu anha), wife of the prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam) – she compromised one of the greatest rights of a female – giving her nights to Aisha (radiallahu anha)

For Deficiency with the wife steps for Husband:

1. Admonishes, Reminds wife:
   • to fear Allah,
   • Rights of Men over Women. eg. the hadiths :
     • “If I were to order any individual to bow to another, I would order the females to bow to their husband…”
     • “Obedience to the husband is one of the greatest means by which a women can enter into Jannah…” etc
   • Shaykh Mentions: “I donot say these narrations so that the men can approach the wife with opression... But I mention so that the women is well informd of the rights of her Husband over her and that she can fear Allah with regards to her husband. “
2. Abandon Sleeping with his wife
3. Hits his wife in a legislated manner.
   • not more than 10 times
   • not in a place that would cause bodily harm
   • should not leave mark etc…
   • the purpose of hitting is to inform that the situation is serious, not to punish or harm her.

PROBLEM STILL PERSISTING:

• The reconciliation then is very difficult
• They call someone eg. from his family and her family - that which is legislated is that they call Judge from his side of the family and her family – someone should represent man and women – individuals who have wisdom – strong intellect.
• they listen to both the parties and gives a ruling after advising with reconciliation
• if they notice there is no means of reconciliation, then they would advice that they seperate
• Man merely divorces without payment
• if Female seeks separation returns mahr for the man
• And the ruling of the judges should be executed

What is also important is that the men pays close attention to the advice of the prophet salallahu alayhiwasallam with regard to women – the Wasiya – farewell hajj speech

• “be kind to women..”
• “she is like a captive with you…” – this should cause the men to be merciful, gentle with the wife.
• man should not take advantage of women’s weakness and oppress her
• “the best of you is the best to his wife…”
• Prophet had issues with his wives and did hijrah for 29 days – but he was gentle, patient and kind to his wife.
• There is no house free of problem

Man and women should look at the future:

• the bad results of separation
• what happens to the children
• evil outcome of separation in society
• who would approach after this? (for females)
• Own family conflicts

But Shaykh mentions:

• “if there is pure turmoil, anger and aggression in the house and no compassion, then the final step is seperation.”
• “Talaaq is not always evil”

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Sisters Kissing Cheeks when Meeting ?

Sisters Kissing Cheeks when Meeting ?

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Assalaamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh

I felt that this email was necessary as kissing on the cheeks is being practised throughout the sisterhood in West London, it is almost as if it is obligatory.

Know that the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم forbade us from kissing when we meet our brothers/sisters:

Anas ibn Maalik (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:

A man said: “O Messenger of Allaah, when one of us meets his brother or his friend, should he bow to him?” He said: “No.” He said: “Should he embrace him and kiss him?” He said: “No.” He said: “Should he take his hand and shake hands with him?” He said: Yes. 

[This hadeeth was classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi]

The permanent Committee was asked about the subject:

Q. There is the phenomenon of young men kissing one another on the cheeks every time they meet, every day. This phenomenon has also spread among old men, in the mosques and in the classrooms. Is this contrary to the Sunnah or is there nothing wrong with it? Is it a bid’ah or a sin or is it permissible?

A. What is prescribed when meeting is to say salaam and shake hands, If the meeting is after a journey then it is prescribed to embrace as well, because it is narrated that Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: When the companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) met, they would shake hands, and if they had come from a journey they would embrace. As for kissing the cheeks, we do not know of any Sunnah to indicate that. End quote.

Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 24/128

Also, Shaykh al-Albani addressed this issue, after mentioning the hadeeth above:

“In fact the hadeeth clearly states that kissing when meeting is not prescribed in Islam. That does not include kissing one’s children or wife, as is obvious.

With regard to the ahaadeeth which state that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) kissed some of his companions on various occasions – such as when he kissed and embraced Zayd ibn Haarithah when he came to Madeenah, and when he embraced Abu’l-Haytham ibn al-Tayhaan, etc – the following points may be noted in response to that:

1 – These are unsound ahaadeeth which cannot be taken as evidence.

2 – Even if any of them were saheeh, it is not permissible to use them against this saheeh hadeeth, because it is an action on the part of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) which may be interpreted as applying to a specific case or there may be some specific reason for that which makes this hadeeth unfit to be used as evidence, unlike this hadeeth, which is a verbal hadeeth that is addressed in general terms to the ummah as a whole, so it is string evidence which cannot be rejected. It is established in the field of usool that words take precedence over deeds in the event of a conflict, and the hadeeth which indicates a prohibition takes precedence over another which indicates permissibility. This hadeeth is verbal and indicates a prohibition, so it takes precedence over the other ahaadeeth mentioned even if they are saheeh.

Similarly, with regard to hugging and embracing, we say that it is not prescribed because the hadeeth forbids it, but Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: When the companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) met, they would shake hands, and if they had come from a journey they would embrace Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Awsat, and its men are the men of saheeh, as stated by al-Mundhiri (3/270), and al-Bayhaqi, 8/36

Al-Bayhaqi (7/100) narrated with a saheeh isnaad from al-Sha’bi that when the companions of Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) met, they would shake hands, and when they came from a journey they would embrace one another.

Al-Bukhaari narrated in al-Adab al-Mufrad (970), and Ahmad narrated (3/495) that Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah said: I heard I heard that a man knew a hadeeth and had heard it from the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). I bought a camel, loaded my luggage onto it, and traveled for a month until I came to Syria, where I found ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Unays. I said to the doorkeeper: Tell him: Jaabir is at the door. He said: Ibn ‘Abd-Allaah? I said: Yes. He came out tripping on his garment and he embraced me and I embraced him… Its isnaad is hasan as stated by al-Haafiz, 1/195. al-Bukhaari narrated it among the mu’aalaq reports.

So it may be said that embracing in the case of a journey is exempted from the prohibition, because the Sahaabah did that.”

[Silsilat al-Ahaadeeth al-Saheehah (1/74, hadeeth no. 160)]

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